Have you ever wondered why there is a social view against comforting children?
I’ve thought about it a lot, where the idea that love could be spoiling might come from.
My conclusion so far is that it is misogyny. That love, comfort, empathy, gentleness, are held as feminine traits, and are therefore risky, to be dissuaded.
When parents feel pressure to get their love in check – to leave their crying baby, not to hold them too much. To teach them through the withdrawal of love, to force independence, that to me it is part of the feminist struggle.